This is a major issue I see a lot, people telling rape jokes. Call me sensitive, but I get offended when people say things like “that test really raped my ass” and stuff like that. Throwing rape around like that normalizes it and makes light of a very serious situation. Besides, you never know when you’re talking to someone who has been a victim of sexual assault.
I cannot believe this is still going on - that the judge ruled in the school’s favor! What has happened to victim’s rights? And now the cheerleader and her family have to pay the court costs for the school? This is so beyond wrong. Please go sign the petition.
In addition there are a couple of ways to help the family:
Want to do something else for H.S.? Journalist Scott Rose is calling for people to mail one penny to the Silsbee School District if the superintendent will not waive the fee as a form of protest. You’re encouraged to send a note expressing your POV on the subject as well. Pennies should be mailed to:
Richard Bain Jr.
Silsbee Independent School District
415 Highway 327 West
Silsbee, TX, 77656
If you’d like to help the victim’s family with their own legal fees, you can donate via Paypal to the address Wattstrial@gmail.com. More on donating to the family here: http://www.helpthecheerleader.com/
More details on what actually happened that night, and the aftermath are here: http://msmagazine.com/blog/blog/2011/05/27/a-cheerleaders-rape-in-a-small-texas-town/
What I want to know is: why why wasn’t the rapist thrown off the team?!? Why was he allowed to play?? He didn’t deserve that privilege!
So sick of this “blame the victim” routine we see all too often in our country.
(TRIGGER WARNING: rape culture)
Eight percent of college men have either attempted or successfully raped. Thirty percent say they would rape if they could get away with it. When the wording was changed to “force a woman to have sex,” the number jumped to 58%. Worse still, 83.5% argue that “some women look like they are just asking to be raped.
Margo Maine, Ph.D. (Body Wars)
There was a time that, as a person of the male persuasion, seeing this quote made me really mad. It made me mad that women would assume that I was a rapist; it made me mad that rape was becoming ‘my problem’; it made me mad because, frankly, I didn’t think it was true. I think that this is a really common male attitude when confronted with rape statistics- or, at least, it has been in my purely anecdotal experience.
But now, I know there is no excuse for that. Men need to take responsibility and look at these numbers for what they really are, and what they really, truly represent. Men, don’t be mad at the woman who is justifiably wary that more than half of the men she knows could be her potential rapist. Don’t be mad at that there’s someone trying to rain on your fun, privileged parade where rape is something that only happens on Law & Order. Don’t be mad that you can’t accept that rape is way more common than you think. Most of all, don’t be mad at the woman who was raped and is seeking justice and help for her assault just because you thinks she looks like she was ‘asking for it.’
Be mad at the man who waits in the park to prey on the women who have a right to feel safe in their own communities. Be mad at the man who takes advantage of his drunk girlfriend. Be mad at the man who pushes the issue when his wife isn’t in the mood. Be mad at the man who catcalls, who makes unwelcome advances, who cops a feel.
Don’t be angry at the woman who doesn’t entirely trust you. Be angry at the men who have made her feel that way. Don’t be a part of a problem.
Be a part of the solution.
This is the best commentary I’ve seen on this post. It’s been around since Sept 2010 and has about 5000 notes, and yet, this is the only commentary I’ve seen that entire time that is basically amazing.
Yes. This commentary.
FS says: This. Oh my, this.
I’ve just sent the OP a thank you note for this commentary, not because he recognizes what a threat rape is but because he admitted that he used to be blind to it. We so often forget to say, “I used to be like you. Don’t feel bad, but do change now that you know better.” And it takes a lot of guts to admit that you used to think something this horrible, and I commend him for his honesty.
The only thing I would like to point out is that we need to realize that:
1. Not just women are raped.
2. Not just men rape.
Rape is a human rights issue, not a women’s issue.
Not Ever - Rape Crisis Scotland has launched Scotlands first ever TV campaign aimed at tackling women-blaming attitudes to rape.
Wish this was showed everywhere in the world. I was just talking to my friend yesterday about how much I can’t stand “She was asking for it.” I can’t really think of anything that is a dumber statement. It doesn’t matter what she was wearing, how much she was drinking, how late she was out, how flirty she was being, if she was into it at first or not, it’s never anybody else’s fault besides the rapist’s, period. You CAN’T ask for rape, that’s how rape is defined, it’s against your will, you don’t ask for something to happen against your will, this should be common sense. If she was asking for it, she’d ask for it, and it’d be called SEX.
It’s very simple, every human being (remember women are human beings too) should be able to go about their lives without being victimized, or being blamed for being victimized. Rape is an unconscionable act, and I know that some people will say “I’m not justifying rape, I’m just sayin a woman should blah blah blah.” the fact is when you blame the victim, you are justifying the crime, you validate rape, and you help create a culture where it’s okay for someone to do whatever they want to a woman because a man isn’t held accountable for their actions. You help create a culture where it’s okay sometimes to rape under certain circumstances. Besides, it’s just massively inhuman to feel anything but sympathy for someone that has had that happen to them, and anger towards the aggressor. It’s never okay. You have to understand this.
If you agree, don’t fall into the logic that “you can’t change people’s minds”, because ideas in fact are contagious. Say something, not just on tumblr. If you hear a friend victim blaming you don’t have to be all confrontational about it, just be like “Well I don’t about that, it’s never the victim’s fault.” You’ll be surprised how easy it is to change someone’s mind when you’re calm and rational and you’re not arguing, yelling, insulting, or shaming them.
So proud of my hometown Ottawa for these magnificent posters.
Finally, finally, finally we are teaching men not to rape, instead of teaching women that you’re gonna get raped, you shouldn’t have worn that skirt.
Rihanna on the “Man Down” controversy, calling in to the BET Radio show 106 & Park last night. (via itsinthetrees)
I don’t know if I ever really talk about how much I love and admire Rihanna. What a fantastic person. What an honest to god intelligent, strong, fantastic person.
A lot of people accuse feminists of thinking that all men are rapists. That’s not true. But do you know who think all men are rapists?
They really do. In psychological study, the profiling, the studies, it comes out again and again.
Virtually all rapists genuinely believe that all men rape, and other men just keep it hushed up better. And more, these people who really are rapists are constantly reaffirmed in their belief about the rest of mankind being rapists like them by things like rape jokes, that dismiss and normalize the idea of rape.
this is why calling people out on rape jokes is so fucking important.
This is fascinating, I had no idea.
Wow, this is… actually really interesting, and important, and… explains a lot.
- Anyone talking is asking to be interrupted.
- Anyone carrying money is asking to be robbed.
- Anyone eating is asking to choke.
- Anyone drinking is asking to be drugged.
- Anyone walking is asking to be tripped.
- Anyone with a face is asking to be punched.
- Anyone with a heart is asking for a heart attack.
- Anyone with arteries is asking for an aneurysm.
- Anyone not wearing a breastplate is asking to be stabbed.
- Anyone not wearing a bulletproof vest is asking to be shot.
RAPE JOKES ARE FUNNY STFU
No they’re not. They belittle everything rape victims go through. They’re massively harmful and perpetuate rape culture. If you want to promote rape culture that’s your choice. I will not tolerate it.
Please unfollow me.
THIS THIS THIS.
So for my final project at college I have to design a rape prevention campaign (as opposed to telling women how to protect themselves), and this is my general idea for the text. I’m beyond nervous about posting it because it’s such a sensitive subject, but for my research I want to show the ~power of Tumblr as a way to get campaigns noticed, so if you could just take 2 seconds to reblog/like this, even if you think it’s horrible or pointless (feel free to say so), I would really appreciate it.
My respect for Panic! at the Disco is seriously plummeting. Seriously, a rape joke? How the fuck is that even funny?
Let me guess, it was the “funny” type of rape, not the serious one. Right?
Jesus, Mary and Joseph I am SO pissed off now
Oh my god… It’s funny. Calm down.
Honey, NO. No it’s NOT. Rape culture is NEVER funny. Saying you’re going to “fuck someone” whether they want it or not is NOT funny. If you have ever been raped/know someone who’s been raped you would know this. Rape is a VIOLENT CRIME that can lead to so many negative things for the victim. Comments like that can be horrifically triggering and help to promote the idea that rape is OK, that rape is generally the victim’s fault, actually.
I think what Brendon said even promotes the idea that you should be LETTING them have sex with girls/groupies/anyone who shows up because hey, you owe it to them.
I am totally aware that this is surely not what they meant, but it’s the idea, it’s the seed they’ve planted. And it’s BAD. It’s WRONG. It’s not “funny” and it’s not a joke. So no, I won’t calm down. Alysen has no reason to calm down, either.
Hey I know that you guys don’t generally like to listen to anything Simone and Alysen and I have to say because we have this rep for being the ~~oversensitive~~ bandom fans, but this is important. Please get your head out of your ass for a second and just read this and just think.
I also don’t understand if it could be considered rape if anyone there, including guys, would have no problem dealing with our Mr. Urie.
I’m sure if he was like, ‘let us have relations’ you wouldn’t answer with ‘no, stay away, you filthy rapist’.
Brendon Urie = yes no matter what the situation is.
You do not pass up that free offer/demand.
This exactly why this is a problem.